This little fact has had a great impact on my dating life … positive and negative. In some cases it has played a role in the demise my potential relationships, in other cases it became one of the only reasons me and the other person continued to interact. Some people feel just as strongly about my affiliation as I feel about women who voted for George W.
Where do I fall in all of this? Well Dating a delta sigma theta have slight Dating a delta sigma theta but not strong ones. I know some people are going to be mad … but I sure do love me a Delta women.
You should not date or not date me because of my affiliation. I was a good person before I joined and I am still a good man although a bit more Ice Cold afterward. There is one valid reason I see for really being hard set on a preference … just one.
That is … to avoid dealing with the ignorance. That being said … know that a Greek Affiliation will not protect you from the following dating pitfalls. If you really think those sterotypes are going to ensure happiness, let me know. Let me first say… I am NOT greek. Heck, I even play flag football with a team of Que Dogs and Deltas. This being said… I have seen a lot and also have dated my share of greeks. I don't think it really matters if someone pledged a particular greek organization although I love myself some Alpha men too, lol … I was never really caught up on the "OOooo you're a what?
A couple of guys on my football team prefer to only date greek women… they feel the women in greek organizations understand them better… go figure. I'm a non-Greek currently dating a Greek Kappaan I'll admit it has taken getting some used to.
I've had to accept that wanting to spend that much time with a bunch of guys rather than with me cuz I'm pretty freaking awesome is not suspect in this context. I'm getting better, but it still frustrates me sometimes. Yeah, I would have thought it was suspect too lol.
But step practice is no joke for greeks… they have to get every step right and make sure they always look good doing it. I think the older you get the less you really care about who you date re their BGLO affliation. But I had thought previously about a grad chapter. I went to college where the only sisterhood they cared about was the universal one of traveling pants headed by the late Betty Friedan.
I will say this, I usually don't ask a lot of "secret society" questions if I am dating a greek. I've heard some stories that involved dead people thats all i'll say. And I wouldn;t let dude sleep one night. I wanted the run down. I have never dated a woman in a sorority so I can't comment on that. But my cousin is a Zeta and I have friends that are Sigmas. I also have been freinds with a few girls in sororities. I've met the women that only date greek or the women who have no life outside the sorority.
I think location matters too. My cousin is from the West Coast and did not go to a black school so I think her relationship Dating a delta sigma theta her sorority may be different than those that went to a black school. I have met some of her sorority sisters were pretty cool. My friends that are Sigmas are cool too. They have a life outside of the fraternity.
I really don't care what group he is involved in…. I'm not greek, however I am an Eastern Star and I never discuss it with "outsiders". I am however partial to Alpha men, I love them to death, to the point that I wouldn't even mind a black and gold wedding…actually just about every recent ex I have is an Alpha man…oh well, maybe I should try dating Que's or something. But I also must admit that I have to marry a Mason, there's no exceptions…it's law in my chapter, and I'm all for it…gotta have a man who's equally "Dating a delta sigma theta" ya know…thank goodness there are Masons everywhere!!
Well…I'm non-greek…thought about joining a grad chapter…still thinking about it actually. I've dated many greek men and it's not biggie to me. I will say, I am somehow usually attracted to Alphas. Not that it's something I seek up front, but there is definitely a pattern that the men I'm attracted to end up being Alphas. I'm just saying, respect the sanctity of the organization, geez! Okay, I'm off to get work done for real today ya'll…see ya after 12 at which time I'll update you all on what happened with ole dude.
Teacia — I hear that the Masons and Easterns Stars are similar to a cult like organization.
Why do you think your organization has gotten this "reputation"? I don't know much about masons, so I'm totally ignorant to the organization. I'm not in a Greek but had thought about going grad chapter.
The older I got though, it didn't seem as important so I never did although my Delta friends keep telling me it's not too late. I don't have an issue dating a non-Greek since I'm one myself but if the guy has never heard of Alphas, Kappas, etc then I might look at him a little strange. That's just like him not knowing who the presidential candidates were this year. I would think he's not Dating a delta sigma theta enough to learn about things outside of his "immediate" little world.
I've met women like this. I don't get it. I kind of find this among people that went to school. I see it more from women than men. I have seen situations where the same women and men get recycled amongst the same people. It's weird I don't get it. Now throughout undergrad I was pretty damned tight with an Alpha and his line brothers. This arrangement apparently worked well because I had pretty friends and I think he dated all of them much to his girlfriend's dismay. It's all two much.
Our group is a spiritual organization and we whole-heartedly believe in God. It's not a cult in the negative connotation society has assigned to the word, but ALL religious groups are cults when using the actual and true definition of the word. There are different degrees to the organization and the higher up you are the more privy you are to certain information. All my life I was destined to be a star and my light shines so bright…lol…and that is all I will say about it.
I found that Alphas are more affectionate about theirs, but the Ques…oh lawd have mercy…they hold no bars.
I never dated greek. They seem like they would be all into themselves more than anything else. Like Teacia said you have to keep with the laws and marry within…. I dated a mason before and let me Dating a delta sigma theta ya, that brotha was so into making the next level he didnt even notice I was leavin is ass. If it boils down to dating someone who is a part of any kind of organization, I prefer a military man! Your letters should enhance you; not define you.
If you weren't shit before you got in, joining won't solve the problem. I know greeks that are the coolest people in the world, that would probably take a bullet for you- greek or not. If you were a good person before you joined, and remained a good person, then I still have a friend. There are some people who's orgs have made them better people and they in return make their org better.
Better that it happen now than when we're involved in a tight situation [re: As long as you don't cross me with that booooollllsheett, I won't fully embarass you in front of everyone. Oh trust me, I will say what everyone thinks, but wont say.
I hunt pink elephants. Indiana-Whew girl…I was waiting on someone else to bring it up. When I was in church yesterday he was talking about the Marines having the slogan "a few good men". He started talking about the dress blues and pressed uniforms and I started thinking about my Marine lover from over the summer. Started liking his lying ass all over again.
Military men are just great. I wouldn't say it's a preference but in the circle I run in, it's pretty common to interact with each other.
For some reason, I do have a soft spot of those Ice Cold Brothers! It's not an option…. I like the reference that Why So made regarding an organization enhancing you. My father is a good person and when he became a Mason, he definitely became a better "Dating a delta sigma theta."
I also fear what I don't understand. However, if it's as spiritual as referenced to, I'm willing to whip out my study Bible. Teacia-I know you is stubborn and will obey the rules…but I mean what if someone else doesn't marry within?
Do you they kick you out? LOL…we study bible heroines and their virtues in the Eastern Stars…so start there…my heroine's virture is the "endurance of persecution"…go figure. The Federal City Alumnae Chapter (The FCAC), Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. TEENS & TECHNOLOGY - TEEN DATING VIOLENCE FACT SHEET. Alpha Kappa Alpha from those who are sisters of Delta Sigma Theta.